If you're wondering about what's happening to our youth today, when they don't have family structure, a good read is "Lord of the Flies" William Golding Young men today, especially inner city youth will mention their friends as "cousins" a close knit unit with some in leadership roles, but no adult mentoring. They view the adults who care, the athletes, professional speakers, motivators, as outsiders. The ones who walk in and for an hour, give a little talk, then escape back to some story book place they've heard of but have never seen. After the speaker is gone, they look around and the only ones there are "cousins". In order to make it, you create your own rules, your own way, your own society. Where daddy's are part time and momma's too busy. Daddy's on the streets sellin', momma's in the house usin'. Where you and your siblings are simply a commodity. The ones who have your back, teach you and love you are you cousins. This is what we've created society. Time to get your hands dirty! Yes, read "Lord of the Flies" and think "concrete jungle".